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You Tube Video Curriculum, Parts 1-4
Definitions, Part 1 of 4
A crucial aspect of clear communication is agreeing on the definitions of words, as this facilitates understanding and progress. Assumptions that make different things equal, like words and definitions, severely limit analysis and understanding of process ecology.
FOUL Buster, Part 2 of 4
FOULs are any words or actions intended to hurt or intimidate. Learning how to peacefully and respectfully handle word FOULs is critical to de-escalating and navigating conflict resolution. This video contains 2 lessons.
PeaceDNA, Part 3 of 4
PeaceDNA is a recipe for creating a peace agreement. Reaching peace agreement in Person-to-Person Conflict (P2PConflict) resolution involves just 3 critical steps; Conditions, Positions, & Remedy. This video contains 4 lessons.
Peace Moves, Part 4 of 4
Peace Moves is a non-violent True self-defense technique that involves keeping away from an attacker by hop-scotch hopping. Each out-of-reach pattern ends with FOUL Buster to address the attacker's intention. The technique also includes Peace Hands, a 'Force Field' that has contact but doesn't harm the attacker. The video contains 5 lessons.
Other Safe Defense Stuff
FOUL Catcher Video Instructions
FOUL Catcher Video Instructions
FOUL Catcher Video Instructions
Engage students with the FOUL Catcher 'toy', which teaches and practices FOUL Buster. The PDF template and instruction video is available under 'Teaching Aids'.
Teaching Aids & Support
FOUL Catcher Video Instructions
FOUL Catcher Video Instructions
Enhance the Safe Defense lessons with these teacher aids; the FOUL Catcher exercise, a 'No FOUL Zone' wall poster, and suggested group debrief questions to facilitate discussion after watching video lessons.
Middle-school Play/Study Unit
FOUL Catcher Video Instructions
Middle-school Play/Study Unit
Use this theater script as a basis for either troupe production or class discussion. Content introduces and develops non-violent attitudes and skill sets specific to middle-school Conflict.
Virtual Bully's Dojo/Blog
Virtual Bully's Dojo/Blog
Middle-school Play/Study Unit
"Wise men seek similarities to understand Truth. Fools nitpick, not to understand, but to draw attention to themselves." (J. Mitose)
Certificate of Completion
Virtual Bully's Dojo/Blog
Certificate of Completion
Follow the link to Google Forms, take the free on-line test, correctly answer 90%, and submit. Allow 4-6 weeks processing. Note: Google Forms requires Google download.
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OVERVIEW
To understand the wider scope of Safe Defense and P2PConflict Resolution, start with an important new term: 'FOUL'. This word will include any act or word intended to hurt, harm, or intimidate. Regardless of the act, violent or slight, it's this intention that defines a FOUL. It's not what they did but why they did it. Many mini-FOULs happen daily at school, workplace, and home. We often just ignore them. Sometimes, we use FOULs ourselves in self-defense (Fight/Flight), and sometimes, we use them with malice. Traditional self-defense thinking accepts using a counter-FOUL to stop the attacker and is justified. Of course, a strong offense is a good defense. And all of this to say: this is self-defense, true, but it is not 'True' self-defense.
A 'True' self-defense would have to be a FOUL-free approach to protecting ourselves. This would need to include a consistent 'Peace Map' for navigating the non-FOUL route. This is why Safe Defense is truly unique. Safe Defense is a method of protecting yourself without using FOULs. In other words, a violent punch is every bit a FOUL as a hurtful put-down or name-calling action. This means any violence is a FOUL, but not every FOUL is violent. Rude behavior is only a FOUL when the intention is attached.
Accepting the scope and definition of the FOUL concept (the intention to hurt, harm, or intimidate) means that the definition of self-defense can also be broadened. Safe Defense is the self-protective (self-defense) knowledge that covers the dangerous and non-dangerous (albeit offensive) FOULs. In other words, this broader view of what makes a self-defense situation includes non-dangerous 'assaults', such as harsh words, threats, name-calling, accusing, etc.
Safe Defense skills, in addition to FOUL Buster and agreeing to "yes", include PeaceDNA, a simple but comprehensive 'map' or model to show how P2PConflict works and how to navigate it to a peace agreement: Conflict Resolution knowledge. PeaceDNA lays out the required 6 Guiding Questions (GQ) in a checklist form, leading directly to P2PConflict resolution. Applicable for your own situation or when helping others as an ad-hoc mediator. Its GQs are organized in 3 steps (Conditions, Positions & Remedy) and are outlined in detail herein.
Safe Defense is a form of 'True' self-defense that enables you to protect yourself without injuring your attacker (J. Mitose). Safe Defense utilizes specific language skills and physical techniques to help you avoid danger and create peace. Of course, some conflicts are difficult to solve because of obstacles that prevent a peaceful resolution. Frequent obstacles, or FOULs, can be managed with the help of Safe Defense features, such as FOUL Buster. Once these obstacles are removed, following the PeaceDNA can lead to a peaceful agreement.
It is important to note that a lot of the fear associated with conflict can be managed once you have a clear plan to follow. Safe Defense is a versatile tool that promotes professionalism, builds trust and relationships, and contributes to a positive community ethic.
